I am still in the pursuit of happiness. There are definitely days where I feel happier than others, and I know that when people see me they assume I’m a girl that has her shit together because I’m bubbly and happy go lucky most of the time. But the road to my happiness was dark, gloomy and lonely. I decided to write about the topic of happiness because it’s an article that I’d like to reread in the near future to see my progress (I hope).
I am happy at the moment, I really am. I am not always happy, but my aspiration in life is to be happy (thank you Queen B for this song – Pretty Hurts by Beyonce). Please do not assume that I have it all figured out because I’m far from it, I am only 25 years old and I’m writing this based off of my experiences only. I referenced the song because it asks are you happy with yourself? My answer is no. I am not happy with myself because I don’t feel like I have reached a stage in my life where I have inner peace and contentment, I am still in search of that, because that to me equals happiness. There was a time I thought that buying certain luxuries would make me happy but that happiness was merely momentary. So my quest of happiness began, I began to google how to be happy, how to find happiness and etc.
Life had another plan for me. I had to go through hell and back to truly appreciate and understand the value of happiness. Ofcourse, if you are reading this and at this moment in your life you are feeling like shit, it is understandable that you might not feel like you may relate to this blog, but keep reading please.
HAPPINESS, WHERE ARE YOU?
1. LETTING GO
Don’t always try so hard to be the tough guy, don’t constantly hide your emotions, you need to embrace all the sadness and grief in your heart because only then will you be able to move on. Yes, everyone’s experiences sadness differently but you must allow yourself to feel it, if you are always on the run or trying to block out any feelings related to sadness, it will haunt you and never leave your side. So be sad if that’s what your heart and soul needs, take days off, go on a vacation alone so long as you give your mind that time to absorb all the emotions that it sees necessary. Blocking sadness out will just amplify and intensify the feeling. So let it be. Let sadness be and soon enough it will walk itself out the door. There is no timeline for this, it may take 5 years or 6 months but do allow yourself to grieve. The happiness that I feel now is only something I was to achieve after I stopped obsessing over doing anything and everything to forget about my problems. I acknowledged my problems and moved on.
2. COMFORT ZONE
Stepping out of your comfort zone can go a long way. I know I’m still relatively young (25 years old) and I have a lot that I have to yet experience from life. But thus far, the things that have made me happiest are the things that I really had to push myself to do, whether it’s joining a new gym or making new friends. And if you try something out and you feel like it’s not for you, then thank you next.
3. IT’S OKAY
Putting pressure on yourself to be happy is not healthy for your peace of mind, nor is comparing yourselves to others. Unfortunately we live in a world of social media and people tend to believe what they see online, but no one (or rarely) do people post their bad days, its only their good days that they are willing to post online, so we naturally compare ourselves to others and the happiness that they have in their life but go at it on your own pace, take it day by day and don’t be afraid of failure, failure and mishaps make us who we are. If not for our bad days, we would not truly appreciate our good days.
4. BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN
Don’t associate happiness with a relationship, job, new city or even pet. Be happy when you’re alone, because everything and everyone will leave eventually and all you will be left with is me, myself and I. unfortunately, I am still trying to reach this point in my life where I have the ability to be completely happy on my own, thus I don’t have the secret recipe for this and that is why I am still in the pursuit of happiness and will continue to be until I find it.
- THE ROO INK
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