If you’re in your 20’s and you think you have your sh*t together, then continue reading. If you’re in your 20’s and you know you don’t have your sh*t together, then continue reading.
We’ve heard it our whole life, “wait until you step out into the real world”, well now we’re here, so what’s next? Let’s be frank, being in your 20’s can suck. Some days we try to convince ourselves that we’re old enough, mature enough and wise enough to figure out this thing we call life. Other days, we get a reality check and we’re reminded that it’s not as easy as our ABC’s. And that’s okay. If you fall under this category, then consider yourself lucky. You’ve got all the time in the world to continue to mess up, and please do so. Don’t refrain from living the life you want because you got sucked into the cycle. Screw the cycle.
I know you’re thinking it, and the answer is no, it’s not easier said than done. You are a millennial. If you find yourself consumed with misery from the moment you wake up, take a moment while reading this and think about all the things you can eliminate from your life in order to increase your dose of happiness. Is it a job? A friend? A pain in the ass relative? When you’re reading this keep in mind that I, by no means, have my life figured out and I’m far from it… and I’m okay with that. I don’t have a 5-year plan, a 1-year plan let alone a 6 months plan, but I have managed to find happiness in the midst of chaos. Let go of the human need to constantly strive for perfection and absorb the idea that your imperfections are what make you, you.
Feeling Lost In Your 20’s
When you’re feeling lost or confused in life, there really is no black and white answer that will solve things for you. One step at a time is the way to go, accept the way you’re feeling and don’t be so hard on yourself. Not knowing what the hell to do next is okay. Plans; more often than not, do not go as planned, sometimes coronavirus gets in the way, sometimes anxiety gets in the way, but it won't last forever.
This is probably the last period in your life where you can still get away with doing what you love while being labelled as a selfish millennial. I’m not in a position to tell anyone how to go about this, but, I do know that eliminating bad habits and the reinforcement of good habits can go along way. Simply start by writing down a list of your habits and start from there, great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.
“Take small steps everyday and eventually you’ll get there.”
Surroundings
Surround yourself with believers. Don’t be afraid of sharing your sometimes wild and impractical dreams with those around you, there will always be people along the way who will try to dim your light or tell you that misery is merely a part of existence. Walk away from them and wish them the best. But continue to share your thoughts and dreams because there will come a day where someone will unexpectedly ask you why the hell you haven’t pursued your wild dreams yet. Those are the people you hold onto.
Everyone’s idea of happiness is different, yes, for some that will include climbing up that corporate ladder in the utmost levels of numbness but do not, I repeat, DO NOT compare yourself to others. The universe has a different plan for all of us, if you’re going through a sh*tty phase in your life at the moment, then believe in the power of the universe and know in your heart and soul that this is here to teach you something. When you’re lost and in the dark, you don’t always know what that lesson is but continue to believe in yourself and your dreams until you see the light.
Remember, if someone seems like they have it all figured out, they most likely don’t and it’s all just a façade that they’re trying to maintain to keep up with societal expectations of the norm. Find what you want to do, find what makes you happy, there will be a lot of trial and error along the way and that’s okay. Failure means you are one step closer to success.
“Don’t spend your time on Earth being a watered down version of yourself just so people can like you.”
Manifesting Your Dreams And Believing In Yourself
Dream big. We hear it all the time, but let’s face it, most of us are too afraid of the consequences that might accompany those dreams. The fear of rejection. The fear of failure. The integration of happiness and success only seems like a far-fetched dream if you’re at the bottom of the mountain, too afraid to climb up. I don’t know a lot, but I can guarantee that you won’t have all the answers in your 20’s so keeping reminding yourself “I don’t know how but I will”.
The law of attraction is waiting for you. Start manifesting your dreams, even if they seem out of reach right now, manifest them into reality. Write a simple plan on how you can achieve your dreams, not a detailed 5-page plan, just a simple 5-steps plan and hustle in every step until you stumble upon happiness. Manifestation doesn’t work unless you hustle. Try, time and time again, to search for your bliss.
We tend to curb our dreams because of our misinterpretation of success. It doesn’t matter if no one believes in your wild visions, so long as you believe in yourself. Never stop giving a damn. Be mindful about the difficulties you will encounter and be mindful of the happiness overcoming those difficulties will bring.
“You have to start hustling with intention and purpose” Adam “Smiley” Poswolsky
Our 20’s disarrayed the usual schedule. We’ve spent most of our life following a guide book, go to school, get your bachelor’s degree then maybe your master’s degree, then get a job and you’re set for life. There’s no manual to help us get by now, we constantly find ourselves discovering and rediscovering ourselves, so take these years one step at a time, you’re in the midst of adulthood and your life is waiting to be discovered.
Thank you to everyone that has contributed to this blog post, you know who you are & thank you for your insight!
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- REEM INK
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