I have always believed, and will always believe, that friendships are one of the most important factors to leading a happy and adventure filled life. Personally, I am a relatively shy individual and I don’t find it natural to open up to others, people have to deserve the title of “best friend forever”, despite my shyness, I try my best to push myself to do things out of my comfort zone, things I enjoy nonetheless, but require a little more courage than usual, like joining gym classes, knowing that I will meet like minded people who aspire to be in shape and eat healthy.
A lot of people assume that it’s not easy to make friends and build friendships, but that’s because they remain in their comfort zone waiting for life to happen rather than living life. That sounds corny, I know, but it’s also true.
I have a small circle of friends and I intent on keeping it that way, because quantity < quality. I met these friends by stepping out of my comfort zone and my normal, by going to university abroad, spending lunch breaks together and etc. And now they really are my best friends, forever? I’d hope so.
HOW LONG IS FOREVER?
In school I had a different group of friends, we slowly but surely drifted apart as we grew older and honestly I found that overtime I had less and less things in common with them and we really didn’t have much to talk about other than our day-to-day routines. I cherish my memories with them and I am so grateful for the life that I shared with them then, but I also accept that I have grown and evolved as an individual, and with that comes finding people who you have more in common with and who you enjoy talking to about anything and everything. Mind you, not all my friends are similar to me, I have a friend or two who I have nothing in common with, but it is our deep mutual understanding of one another and of life that keeps our friendship going, despite growing separately along the years into different people.
Back in school I could have never imagined my life without my friends, in fact, my parents tried to persuade me to move schools but I objected and refused on the basis that I loved my friends way too much and I loved spending all my days with them and I could not possibly imagine the idea of not being around them. Even though we lead separate lives now, I am happy they were a part of my life when they were, because at the time that is what I needed and they are who my soul connected with.
DIFFERENT CHAPTERS, DIFFERENT FRIENDS
Every time I make a new friend I think to myself wow, how come we have never crossed paths before? But now I know that we were meant to meet at the time that we did, and we were destined to build a friendship during a later time of our lives. As a working woman now, I find that I like connecting with people who enjoy and appreciate the hustle, as dreadful as it may be, it is largely who I am today. When I see a like minded person who strives to be a strong and independent individual and who has an understanding of the universe, I find that I naturally gravitate towards them, because that is who I am in this chapter in my life.
In a few years time, I will continue to grow and with age you get to experience new things, visit more countries and slowly discover who you are and what your purpose in life is. I can’t wait to meet new people who align with my vision and outlook on life at all my next chapters.
To conclude, I hope the person reading this can appreciate the friendships they once had and embrace the ones they have now and look forward to the friendships they will have in the future.
To all (very few) my friends, thank you for being you.
⁃ THE ROO INK
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